Do not make the mistake of your life!
When you are tempted to do things your own way… You have been hurt because family has failed you. You were conceived and born out of wedlock. Dad did not want you. Even Mum did not want you. They both moved on, getting married to other people and living their separate lives – separate from […]
Break Free!
When you are feel overwhelmed… If you keep abreast of international news, you might have heard, or read recently, about the pastor who attempted suicide while inside his church. He ultimately died a day later. He was a pastor of a megachurch that was said to be doing well financially and attracting record setting attendance. […]
Learn the lesson, then move on!
When you fall… Tesh entered 2018 with great plans, wishes, dreams and desires – the year was going to be great! But just a few days into the year, she found herself in an unusual situation and where she made a wrong decision that resulted in her being put in a compromised position. She should […]
Dealing with Negative Self-Image
When you feel you have nothing to offer… Shrinking Violet is shy, quiet and withdrawn. She walks into a room with her head down, wanting nothing more than to blend in with the scenery and to avoid attention. She believes that her presence is unwanted, perhaps even worthless and would much rather have stayed away. […]
Dealing with your child’s misbehaviour
When you wonder what you did wrong… My friend is her younger brother’s mother. He was born when she was 18 and their parents are late. Recently, she shared with me how frustrated she was that he had chosen to live a life completely opposite to how he had been raised. She had decided to […]
Stand Firm!
When it is you against the world… Recently, a coworker was saying how a few years ago, males who simply behaved like females were shamed, disgraced and in certain cases, beaten up. However, being gay is now accepted and even celebrated in certain countries. I remarked that in a few years, even here in Nigeria, […]
Don’t do it!
When you are about to walk away… Recently my husband and I celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary. It seems just like yesterday that we tied the proverbial knot, and now it has been a 17-year long story. But for the 16,14,11 and 4-year old faces that smile at me from the picture above my computer […]
Run Your Own Race!
When you compare yourself with others… “Keeping up with the Joneses” is an expression which refers to “the comparison to one’s neighbor as a benchmark for social class or the accumulation of material goods. To fail to “keep up with the Joneses” is perceived as demonstrating socio-economic or cultural inferiority.” (Wikipedia) Simply put, it is […]
Dealing with your emotional affair
When you begin to prefer someone else… “X is such a nice guy! He knows exactly what to say and when to say it – whenever I am down or under pressure, he has the right pick- me-up, just the words I need to snap out of it. He is so easy to talk to, […]
Speaking the truth in love
When you have to say what has got to be said… Let me first of all establish some context: I know that I know that I know that I am right, and my husband, unfortunately, is wrong. What do I do? There is some underlying problem that is undermining our marriage relationship, but telling my […]
Dealing With Emotional Abuse
When he thinks he defines you… Domestic violence has become an issue in church now, shocking but true. Many women are suffering physical, emotional, economic and sexual abuse within their marriages. Emotional (or verbal) abuse is said to be the most common form partly because there are no visible signs of the abuse. It manifests […]
Dealing With The Fact That You Are The Sole Breadwinner
When the tables are turned… From the beginning, God created man and woman differently. God created Adam to work and keep the garden (Genesis 2:15) and created Eve to be Adam’s helper (Genesis 2:18). So a married woman is to help her husband achieve the task God created him to achieve and this includes helping […]